My Blog
How to Rekindle the Flame..
Do you feel the "spark" has died down in your relationship? Do you still kiss as much? Has sexual intimacy started to decline? Are you still as passionate about your partner as when you first met? Although there might be many reasons why the flame is decreasing, a...
Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship
"Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship". We have heard the saying time and again, "Without trust, you have nothing". Trust is the glue that holds relationships together. It makes us feel safe and allows us to be vulnerable, connect and rely on our partner....
When love is not enough..
"All we need is love", a famous song performed by the Beatles. We see it in movies and on social media that all you need is love to have a good long-lasting relationship. We romanticize and idealize love in such a way that it sometimes clouds our judgment, and we...
Attachment Styles in Relationships
Have you ever wondered why you are attracting, or, are attracted to particular people? Or, why past lovers have not been as compatible with you as you first thought? Love requires choice, commitment, and work, together with an intuitive understanding of ourselves as...
The Art of Communication
We are all aware of the fact that effective communication is one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship, but how many of us really know how to communicate well, or what should be considered and/or applied for communication to be successful? This does not...
Compatibility In Relationships
“To be, or not to be”: Not only a question of being but more so, is this fitting or unsuitable for me? Compatibility is a generally misunderstood concept that ultimately determines whether a relationship is going to last or not. To gauge your level of compatibility in...
Inner Conflict
Inner conflict and the lessons we can learn from it Have you ever felt in a situation or while deciding that "one part" of you wants to do something, but the "other part does not? That two opposing parts inside of you is in conflict? This blog deals with inner...
The similarities between Therapy, Coaching and Counselling.
The similarities between Counselling, Coaching and Therapy We all go through trials and tribulations that might set us off course. Emotionally, mentally, and spiritually we get challenged, and many times we don't know how to get through a situation, or we feel "stuck"...
Inner healing: When Self-harm isn’t physical
Mental health issues can affect and influence the lives of people in an array of ways. This blog deals with self-harm and how it’s not just physical. I delve into how individuals can inflict harm on themselves, even if it’s not in the physical sense, and explore...
How to Choose A Good Life Coach: Top 10 Tips
My Kinda Life is owned by Debbie Hartmann who is an experienced Transformational Life, Relationship, and Teen Coach. There are various platforms in which coaching can be provided, including Online Coaching as well as In-Person Coaching. In this article, we will be...
Fight, flight, freeze…. or “fawn”? What is your stress response?
From an evolutionary standpoint, we all have an inherent automatic stress response when our brains perceive danger in our environment. These stress responses serve us well by allowing us to quickly sum up the dangerous situations and respond to them in a way that will...
Are you deceiving yourself?
Do these expressions sound familiar? “I don’t have a drinking problem”; however you binge drink every day. “I am not insecure”, on the other hand, you constantly check your partner's phone. "I only cheated on you because you didn't give me enough attention". "I...
Self Forgiveness: Heal from Shame and Guilt.
We've all been in a place where we've done things that we aren't proud of and may feel guilty or ashamed of. It could be that you missed your child's sports game when you promised that you would be there. Perhaps you forgot your partner's birthday. Maybe you had to...
Rejection and How to Handle It
A painful experience which we'd all preferably choose to forget. Do you remember your last rejection?? Was it by your friends or co-workers who may not have invited you to drinks after work? Or was it possibly your partner or spouse who left you for someone else?...
The “War” Within: Inner Conflict
Have you ever caught yourself “arguing” in your mind? A part of you wants to do something, and the other part has an opposing view or need. The positive voice tells you that you are “capable” and can do anything, while the negative voice uses emotions such as fear and...
The Power that lies in Self-Love
We’re all aware of the term Self-Love as it’s extensively expressed in social media, chats with friends, and counseling sessions. “You can’t love others if you don’t love yourself” Or, statements such as: “You should love yourself” or, “Why don’t you love yourself?”...
Life Skills teenagers can learn from online coaching.
The teenage years, otherwise known as adolescence, prove to be the most challenging and intricate time of young persons' lives. With the rapid brain development and hormonal changes, there are many things that teens go through. From trying to understand what is going...
Self-harm in Teens
Self-harm is when a person deliberately hurts themselves and causes physical pain. They usually engage in this behaviour to cope with complicated feelings or situations. It is a way to try and get control of emotions or relieve tension from stressful situations. Some...
Is your child being bullied?
Bullying is currently making headlines in the news in South Africa but it is, unfortunately, a worldwide problem. The term bullying can be described as an individual using power to control, harm, or humiliate someone else, normally someone weaker, smaller, or more...
Social Media Addiction in Teens and Young Adults
There is a fine line between ensuring your teen understands how to use technology and creating a healthy online presence vs. providing their psychological and physical health remains intact. Most parents are aware of this but find it challenging to manage without...
Depression In Teens And The Warning Signs
Lets face it – Covid has taken a psychological toll on all of us. Many of us experienced the loss of a loved one, a friend, or a family member. Several people became part of the Country’s unemployment statistics all the while living in fear of contracting the virus....
How will divorce affect my Teen?
The collapse of a family unit is a traumatizing event that could lead to challenges for teenagers who are already in the clutches of hormonal changes which, on its own, is a fragile and confusing time of their lives. Choosing to navigate the process of divorce...